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Five (5) Tips For Relationship Success


Five (5) Tips For Goal Setting Success


Five (5) Tips For Making Date Night A Success


Five (5) Tips For Managing The Stress Of Holiday Giving


Five (5) Tips For Getting Your Partner To Do The Things They Don’t Like


ADHD Inherited? Five (5) Tips For Helping Children Of Parents With ADD/ADHD


Five (5) Tips For Managing The Relationship With Your And Ex And Current Mate


Therapist Got What??? My #StompOutStigma Moment


We know depression affects 10% of the US population every year, but we still get a bit confused about what that looks like, who it affects and how you know.

Five (5) Tips For Overcoming Family Tension During The Holidays


Five (5) Tips For Reducing Holiday Travel Stress


Family Holidays- Five (5) Steps For Keeping Folks Out Of Your Business


Five (5) Tips For Transitioning To Holidays As A Couple


Five (5)Tips For Managing Your Day With ADD/ADHD


  1. Outline your day – try connecting with each task

  2. Create different stations

  3. Eliminate potential distractions

  4. Use energy deflectors / focuser

  5. Use breaks effectively & efficiently

Five (5) Tips For Finding Your Partner’s Love Language


Five (5) Signs You May Be Dealing With ADD/ADHD


1. Inability to pay attention/ Easily distracted -The lower the interest lower the focus
2. Restlessness/ fidgety –Easily frustrated/ short fuse
3. Multistarter
4. Very disorganized- lose things, missed deadlines
5. Frequently/ easily overwhelmed— Feels like all the balls are in the air

Five (5) Tips For Making Couples Therapy Work


The therapeutic relationship is a partnership between the therapist and the client(s). As in any partnership, there are roles that each partner must play in order for the partnership to work and results to be attained. While it is much easier to blame it on the therapist when “therapy did not work”, that is not always the reason. I will admit that not every therapist is great. There will be times when the therapist’s style does not work for a particular client. I’ve been known to let out a smile or two when people told me how they thought their therapist was supposed to be seeing a therapist instead of being one. I will express compassion when someone shares about a bad therapy experience. What many people don’t want to hear is that it is not always the therapist’s doing that kept them from benefiting form therapy. Very often, when therapy did not work it was because of something that the client did or failed to do. These five tips will help your prevent some of the more common hindrances to therapeutic success.

1. Set treatment goals with your therapist that you and your partner agree on
2. Show up with an open mind and forgiving heart
3. Follow through with homework and activities
4. Make counseling a priority not an after thought
5. Stick it through

Five (5) Tips For Managing Your Day With Symptoms of Depression


Five Tips For Building A Loving Partnership With Your Spouse


Five (5) Tips For Working With Colleagues With ADD/ADHD


Work is one of the places where symptoms of ADD/ADHD have some of their greatest impact. The individual who is working through the symptoms want very much to have that stable work day where all the work they do lead to results that show the depth of their efforts. Unfortunately ADD/ADHD take a great deal of work to manage, and that is not just on the part of the person who has. Just as the team’s work can be impacted by the person’s symptoms, there are some things that the team can do to help the individual. Whether you are a colleague, supervisor, or supervisee, you can make a world of difference. Start with these 5 tips:

  1. A written follow up is important
  2. Provide enough but not too much time
  3. Prioritize and spread your requests
  4. Stay focused and be consistent
  5. Respect their time and space.

I know the clip is long 🙂 Recap starts at 6:53

 

Five (5) Tips For Helping A Spouse With ADD/ADHD


We are used to hearing about how to help children with ADD/ADHD, but the adults they later grow up to be get forgotten. While many children outgrow their ADD/ADHD, most of them don’t. They become adults with ADD/ADHD who go on to have regular jobs, relationships and families that can be impacted by their ADD/ADHD. While I look for a more recent source to cite, until then I will share that an NIMH funded National Comorbidity Survey Replication, estimated the prevalence of Adult ADHD at 4.4% in 2006.

I realize I am a bit long winded for ADHD, but you can catch the summary in starting at 9:22
1. Excellent organization system- With bins and color coding
2. Shared calendars
3. Plan and write things down
4. Gentle reminders but no nagging
5. Build in a time cushions- No more than 5 to 10 minutes