September 26, 2011 at 1:41 pm
There are many things in the world that can be used for tremendous good or evil equally. Take Chemistry for instance- with the right mix lives can be saved, while through another just as many can be destroyed. Geometry and physics can be applied to build or demolish spectacular structures. Hateration is another force that is dually powerful. It can fuel your way to success or fuel the fires of negativity incinerate your dreams.
Hateration takes the form and strength that the individual allows it to. If you decide to give in and let it win, it will take over. It can consume you and lead you to spend so much time worrying about the negatives and not enough working toward positives. It can lead you to be so blinded by obstacles that you can’t see the solutions that stare in your face. But most of all if it is allowed to, Hateration can cause you to please your haters and prove them right, by doing what they wanted you to do and failing where they predicted you would.
Hateration is like fuel that is being added to the fire. If the fire burning within you is that of doubt and discouragement, then that it will magnify them. But if you are burning with a passion for success, a strong commitment to achieve your goals, adding fuel to that fire can propel you to the next level. The criticisms of others will make you work that much harder. For every person who said you cannot do what you set out to, you will work a few more hours to make sure that you do. Each time you hear that it’s impossible you will do more research to discover how it is possible. When you use the discouragement of others as a reminder of your pioneering potential, you can’t help but push further.
In this case, hateration would be the fuel that moves you further. It’s not that you could not get there without, but since it’s there, instead of wasting your energy working to remove it, you use the energy that it can provide you. It is a great tool for those who know how to harness its energy.
The power of hateration is in what it leads you to do, and every time you use it to move closer to your goals- YOU WIN. There is saying that “behind every successful person there is a group of haters”. We hope that is not true, but is it is something that only the haters change. An individual working towards goals cannot afford the time that it takes to appease this group. That time is much better spent garnering more supporters through good work and dedication to your goals and the things that really matter.
I’m just saying though…
Dream Big… Live Bigger…
DrJudiC
www.DrJudiC.com
September 19, 2011 at 5:02 pm
Sometimes people genuinely do want to help, but not everyone’s method of helping is what you actually need. When people don’t know or just can’t see your vision it can be difficult for them to advise you. This is another place where having your road map comes in handy.
Have a plan. The old adage “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll for anything” is never more true than when you are working toward a goal. This is one place where people get easily side tracked. Generally, everyone is sharing their recommendations because they want to see you succeed. But their ideas of what it takes are not always what works for your destination. When you have a plan, you will know. You will also be able to decide when a recommendation would fit well within your plan and should be added or when to just pass.
Be appreciative. When the person’s intent is to help, it’s hard to just dismiss them. You also don’t want to just push them away because you want the sentiment, their caring enough to want to help, you want that to continue. Always thank them for the recommendation. Some times that the end of it. If there is a follow up you can politely tell them that their recommendation does not fit with your current plan and what you are working to achieve. To take it a step further, you could even share with them where you are going and what you are looking for that way if they come across the resources you need in the future they will recognize them as something potentially useful to you.
Seek clarification. Sometimes an idea may not show its potential at face value. They person who makes a recommendation may know what they mean, but their presentation may not convey the benefits to you. Be clear about what is being presented as well as how you intend to use it and the benefits there in, before you run with anything. Otherwise you could find yourself perpetually in a starting point.
Be knowledgeable. People will bring recommendations. They will come to you with their good intentions, but it will be up to you to be on top of your game. Arm yourself with knowledge so that you are able to decipher valuable advice from the ones that won’t help with your progress. Unless you know what you are after; what it takes to get it; paths that can lead to success as well as those that can lead you astray, then you may be susceptible to influences that are less than helpful.
So the next time someone offers you a suggestion know what to PACK– Plan- Appreciate- Clarify- Know.
I’m just saying though…
Dream Big… Live Bigger…
DrJudiC
www.DrJudiC.com
September 12, 2011 at 9:43 am
Yesterday was September 11, 2011. One can hardly believe that it has been ten years since that dreadful day which started out so beautifully. Yes I remember that day; what I thought; how I felt; who I was with. Every little detail continues to stay with me.
I also remember the days after. The country came together. We were all part of one American family. Remember that commercial? “I’m an American!” What did that really mean? Ten Years ago we, as nation were brought to our knees. Whether to seek cover, wail in agony or pray, we came to our knees. Today as people wave signs and banners saying “We Remember” or “We Will Never Forget” it is obvious how much has been forgotten. The feeling of togetherness that Americans once shared is a distant memory. That neighborly feeling has gone away leaving in its place distrust and cattiness. Ten years of a “War on Terror” and Terror is winning. Terrorism breeds fear, hatred and distrust, the kind which we are surrounded by. Instead of working together for common success the focus is placed on working against an opponent. As both parties work to destroy the other the victor is actually an outside third party whose goal was to see the country brought down by the hands of its own citizens. What has happened in Vermont in the past few weeks is a prime example. The supposed leaders of a nation battle each other, pitting the people against sides all the while the people were left to suffer.
On this September day the challenge to all of us as nation is to be the America that we were on September 12, 2001. Be the America where we cared about our neighbors. When our leaders fail to set the example of caring let us be the ones who show them how it’s done. For a brief moment in 2001 we had defeated terrorism by uniting as a nation and not allowing the enemy to divide us as they wanted to. When we woke up on September 12, 2001 there was no racial or class separations. We were Americans. Today there’s not enough glue in the country to put all the subsections back together. We don’t need another 9/11 to remind us that we have enough enemies outside our borders and don’t need anymore amongst ourselves.
Instead of spending thousands erecting memorials honoring some of those who perished on that sad day, let us invest in caring for all the families that were left behind. Memorial ceremonies bring an opportunity for people to come honor those who did not make it. You’ll be hard pressed to find someone who’s dying wish was to have memorial ceremonies in their honor, most people who had time for a final wish wished for their loved ones to be taken care of. If we are to truly honor those who perished on 9/11, we need to start by honoring each other, the ones they left behind. It’s not about waving FDNY/NYPD banners. It’s taking the time to acknowledge local firefighter and police officers in our communities. They did not die on 9/11 they are still here serving our communities. The next time you or your neighbors are running out of a building, they are the ones who will be rushing in.
Remember to take care of each other today and every day. We must always remember that we are in this together. When we were attacked on 9/11 the enemy did care the color of the skin of their victims. They did not consider the bank account balances of those who would be hurt. There was only one factor that mattered- The likeliness that the targets carry a blue passport or were blue passport simpaticos. As they plan future assaults, that blue passport is all they will see. Our strongest weapon against any assault they can mount is community. Togetherness that will allow us to identify what is out of place. Togetherness that prevents them from openly hiding among us. And if they strike, togetherness that helps us rebuild.
If we truly want peace we must bring it.
I’m just saying though…
Dream Big… Live Bigger…
DrJudiC
