You Are Worth it!
One of my friends used to have an Eleanor Roosevelt quote on her voice mail “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. I had to restate this more than a couple of times this past week as I heard people say in one context or another how someone made them feel. To allow someone to make you feel that you are unworthy or less deserving is to allow that individual to wield too much power over you. Anyone can slip into that negative thought for a brief moment. What makes the difference is how long you choose to stay in that moment and how you react to it.
Your worth and everything that you deserve must first start with you. If you don’t know or believe that you are worthy and deserving of great things, you will be susceptible to any cues that others may present, whether intentionally or not. If you choose to know your value to this world, then the opinions of others would weigh less on your feelings about yourself. And even if someone did suggest otherwise you would not be easily convinced.
Frequently, in these situations when you allow another person’s behaviors or statements to dictate your feelings it is truly because are taking on something that had nothing to do with you. People generally don’t act to negatively impact others, but instead act for their own personal convenience. So if a man or woman is not giving you the attention you desire, it’s not because you aren’t worth it; but because his values are placed elsewhere at the moment. If you decide to make yourself responsible for other people’s choice than you are placing yourself in a position to feel a great deal of hurt. You may blame them, but the true cause is somewhere inside of you.
Still, if other people’s opinions, behaviors or insecurities are affecting your views of yourself, the great question then is: What is going on with you that is allowing you to give someone else the power to dictate your feelings about yourself. Instead of focusing on the other party and how they made you feel, focus inside and uncover the root of that feeling. Someone cannot make you feel insecure if the seed of insecurity is not already activated within you.
When someone else’s cues are surfacing negative feelings about yourself, it’s time to do some work on yourself. This may be as simple as taking an inventory of the many things that make you great, but sometimes it could be deeper. You must be willing to invest the time and effort to gain or regain your connection to who you are. If the inventory does not get you to the level that you need to be, then seek help. Whether through professional help or the use of tools to help yourself, it’s worth taking the time to strengthen one’s sense of self worth because what you believe your self to be is what you will truly be. The truth remains: no matter how many times others may tell you that you are amazing; you need to believe that for it to have any impact. Otherwise the positive feedback of many will be easily drowned by the criticism of one.
As René Descartes put it “I think therefore I am”. So positive or destructive, the way it is in your mind is the way it will be in your reality. Next time you think someone is making you feel that you are not worth something, ask yourself why you are agreeing, then work to change that.
I’m just saying though…
Dream Big… Live Bigger…
DrJudiC
www.DrJudiC.com
PULL Must Follow Every PUSH to Reach Your Goal
This morning I read this retweet “PUSH- Pray Until Something Happens”. I have nothing against prayer but I do have something against the way that statement is too often interpreted. Whether you are praying to or any other higher power you believe in, that can’t be only thing you.
Too often we don’t take enough initiative after we pray or mediate. Ask and you shall receive does not mean that everything that is requested will be brought to your front door at the desired time. More often than not these requests are granted in the form of opportunities that can be used to attain the desired result.
The power to perform is always within you. The higher power you pray to will provide you with tools but the action is really up to you. It’s funny how much thought and effort we put into some of the most basic things in our lives, but when it comes to the things that matter many some people tend to back off. When you order that beautiful bedroom set from IKEA they don’t deliver a bedroom- They give you a box of pieces. Before delivering that box of pieces, IKEA made sure to carve out all the necessary detail, provided you the instructions and the tools to make the change from pieces to furniture. Still at the end of the day all they gave you was a bunch of pieces. The onus is on you to turn those pieces into that picture that made you whip out your credit card. Everyone seems to get that and work accordingly. Whether you do it yourself, pay for installation or call a few friends you get it done. No one bad mouths the company for not delivering a 10 piece bedroom set to them.
That same method is what we should be doing with other parts of life. You don’t just pray and wait. Action must always be a part of the plan if anything is to be achieved. When you want that career, that education or any other goal, yes you can pray on it. But as you pray you must act. If you pray for a healthier body and the next day a friend invites you to the gym that is the answer to your prayer even if the gym is out of the way. That seemingly inconvenient gym may be an opportunity to start off with a nice walk or bike ride. When the supervisor comes up and tells you about an educational opportunity, that may be the answer to your prayer for career advancement; but if you are too busy looking at why you can’t do that with this job, you’ll miss the opportunity to get the next job.
It’s time for us to stop putting everything into PUSH and make more of an investment in PULL- Pick Up & Live Life (PULL). With prayer comes opportunity and it’s up to us to PULL them in. As individuals, it is our responsibility to pick up the pieces and live the lives we want. If prayer is going to work, action has to be its power source. The power to act- the power to create change- the power to succeed- have always been within us and remain dormant until activated through our choices.
If IKEA takes the care to not give you a task greater than your skills can complete, do you really believe that the higher power you pray to would not at minimum do that for you too? Remember a PUSH works best when paired with a PULL.
<span style=”font-family: ‘Calligraph421 BT’; font-size: 14pt;”><span style=”font-family: ‘Calligraph421 BT’; font-size: 14pt;”> </span><span style=”font-family: ‘Calligraph421 BT’; font-size: 14pt;”> I’m just saying though…
Dream Big… Live Bigger…
DrJudiC
<a href=”http://www.drjudic.com/”>www.DrJudiC.com</a></span>
